Sexual Health

By Dr. Kelvin Adams. Updated 13th Oct 2014

Sexual practices between men are diverse. Some men like lots of sex, others don’t. Some men like certain types of sex, others don’t. Some men spend lots of time looking for and participating in sex, others don’t.

There are a variety of sexual practices that men can participate in.

Non-genital sexual contact involves holding, massage, and kissing. Licking and sucking may or may not involve the genitals. Mutual masturbation involves guys wanking each other. Most men enjoy oral sex. Some men also enjoy anal sexual contact including oral stimulation (rimming) or anal penetration with fingers, penis or sex toys. Anal sex can be messy and most guys prefer to douche before “bottoming” to clean out the rectum of faecal matter.

Other men enjoy more non-traditional sexual acts like water sports (sexual acts involving pissing), scat (sexual acts involving shitting), and fisting (inserting the hand and forearm into the rectum). BDSM refers to bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, and sadism & masochism. Some men enjoy group sex, ranging for three-somes, to large scale orgies or sex parties.

Gay and bisexual men seek out sex in various places. The Internet and Phone Apps have made it easier to hook up for sex at any time of the day and in many locations. Locations range from a private home to saunas and sex clubs (Sex On Premises Venues, or SOPVs), or outdoor “beats”, usually parks, beaches or public toilets.

Communicating with your sexual partner about your preferred sexual practices and desire for safe sex is very important to understand each other and give and receive the most pleasure, and for creating a safe sexual environment.

A helpful book:

 Silverstein C & Picano F, The Joy of Gay Sex, Harper Collins 2009.


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